Published On: Sun, Feb 17th, 2013

Why Do People Cheat?

By Hafsa Fallah

Morocco News Tribune

 

Manchester, England—Polling over 100,000 people and collecting over 1 million data points, the survey was conducted in 2011 and it was compiled into a book called The Normal Bar in an attempt to figure out why people cheat – and with whom and also to try to come out with suggestions for better relationships.

The book, The Normal Bar, which was described by Barbara Reskin, ex-President of the American Sociological Association as “This outstanding book draws on thousands of surveys to find out what makes couples happy.  Besides being entertaining and edifying, The Normal Bar can actually help most couples improve their relationships”, gives you very interesting findings about relationships and helpful suggestions on making relationships better. In today’s article, we will focus on why people cheat on their partners:

1. Usually your partner is cheating with somebody you know, not just a random person your partner met somewhere. According to the survey, 60% of infidelity occurs with a coworker. Also, infidelity may occur in your social circle. Nearly half of men and a quarter of women are attracted to their partner’s friends and are tempted to act on it because people usually feel attracted to a coworker or friend due proximity. That is, the fact you are more around somebody, the more you grow attracted to them and the more opportunity you have to act on your feelings.

2. The number one scenario of cheating occurs during trips. Out of everyone who admitted to cheating, 1-out-of-3 took advantage of that scenario. According to the survey, it confirmed that cheaters during trips feel lonely and think they are not going to get caught.

3. For women infidelity, it happens when she is around an old flame, or sweetheart, because women usually cheat on their husbands for emotional reasons, according to the survey.

4. For men, Boredom comes as number 1 why men cheat on their partners. Over 70% of unfaithful men stated that their stale and lifeless relationships are the primary reasons why they look around for other women to fill that gap they have in their lives.

 

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